Meditation Techniques for Couples

There is a saying “Couples that pray together, stay together”. Well, I also believe that couples that meditate together will do the same. Couples meditation is a great way to grow closer, bond or even to stop an argument. Meditation is a great way to help you and your significant other keep a leveled head and bring balance back into the relationship.

People think that meditation is a personal experience that must only be done alone. However, I believe that couple’s meditation can align your breathing with your partner and allow you to both be more receptive to each others emotional needs. In other words its a great way to get better in tuned with each other.

The following is a great exercise to help you and your loved one learn couples meditation:

1. Sit cross-legged facing your partner so that your knees are touching. Try as much as possible to keep your back straight during this meditation. This allows you to breath openly and it makes you more receptive to the flow of subtle energy within your body.

2. Place your hands on your knees. One of your palms should be facing up, with your partner’s palm facing down atop it. Your other palm should be facing down, atop the upward facing palm of your partner.

3. Breathe. Allow your breath to flow naturally. You’ll likely notice after a few moments that your breathing has come into a alignment. This is very good thing. This brings the two of you to a place of receptivity.

Remember the most important part of this practice is to just simply spend this quiet time together. Don’t force yourself, simply sit quietly. When you an both allow this still moment to take place, you will notice an increase in tenderness and an increase in presence in your relationship.

So, choose a quiet place, simply breathe, be patient and try this for about 10 minutes and see where it takes you. As you become more advanced with couple meditation, you’ll be able to begin bringing your mindfulness to different parts of your experience.

Re-post from: http://passionistas.me/meditation-techniques-for-couples/

Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair

If you're worried you, or your spouse, is getting sucked into an emotional affair and you want to know what warning signs emotional affair are, read on.

An emotional affair can sneak up on anyone. No one really goes looking for an emotional affair, they just find themselves feeling a connection to a person. Usually that connection isn't physical, at least not at first, and that is why it can be so easy to not realize what is happening until it's too late.

It's much more difficult to break off a relationship once you start to have feelings for the other person than it is if the relationship is just purely sexual. That's why in some ways an emotional affair can be worse than a sexual relationship.

Here are some tell tale signs that you are on the brink of having an emotional affair:

1. If you find yourself defending the relationship by saying 'We're just friends', chances are you're on your way to something more. Think about it for a moment, when you're talking about a friend who you have no attraction to at all you don't ever feel the need to defend that relationship, do you? Even in the early stages of an emotional affair, there is a part of you that knows what's going on and that's why you will feel the need to defend the relationship.

2. If you're spending time thinking about that person that is a real danger sign. Again, as a benchmark, think of one of your other friends. Do you think about them as often as this new person in your life? If the answer is no, you have to be careful of what is developing between you and your new crush.

3. Do you almost feel like your life is on hold until you're with your new friend? If you find that you can't wait until the next time you can see them or that you don't even want to go anywhere unless you know they'll be there, then there is a very good chance that what you're feeling is a lot more than just friendship.

4. If you are opening up to this person more than you are your spouse or boy/girl friend than that is another sign of a problem. Your spouse is the person you should be able to talk to about anything. If you find that you can tell this new person in your life things that you can't, or won't, tell your spouse you are getting in way too deep.

5. If you find that you are making excuses just to spend time with your new friend alone, than you are well on your way to committing adultery. Manufacturing reasons to be alone with this person is a sign that deep inside you want the relationship to be more than just friends.

If you, or someone you love, shows warning signs of an emotional affair, don't wait, take action right away. It's not easy to end a relationship when you are in love with the other person, that's why it's best to end it before it really gets started.

How To Get Over A Relationship

One of the sad realities of life is that most of us will experience at least one very difficult and painful breakup in our lifetime. Everyone, and every situation is different, there is no one size fits all solution, and despite what many will say there is no set time limit either, it will take as long as it takes. But if you want a few tips on how to get over a relationship more quickly, just read on.

I know I said there was no specific time limit, and I meant it, but if you find that you're not really living your life, you're missing work, or you're not spending time with your friends, etc, for more that a few months you might want to get some help. There's nothing wrong with still hurting or having feelings for your ex after a few months, but if the feelings are still so raw that you aren't really living your life, you may be able to benefit from someone who can help you wade through those intense emotions.

Don't ever feel uncomfortable asking for help if you need it. Going through a breakup hurts like crazy, and if someone can help you move through that pain a little more quickly, why wouldn't you jump at that?

Here are a few tips that may be able to help you find the closure you need, a little more quickly, so that you can move on and find another relationship:

1. It's OK, and even necessary, to spend a little time grieving. A breakup is kind of like a death, you've just lost the companionship of someone you've loved and relied on. That's a hard thing to do. It's important that you don't try to pretend that you aren't hurting.

While I'm not suggesting you run around crying all the time, you do need to acknowledge the pain you are feeling and not just try to bury it and pretend you don't care. If you do that the pain will not really ever go away and it will jump up and surprise you when you least expect it. You have to allow yourself time to grieve, then heal.

2. Resist the urge to contact your ex. You do have to learn to build your life without your ex in it. I know that one statement can be unbelievably painful, but it's true and the sooner you realize it and try to move on the sooner you will feel joy again and be ready for another relationship. A clean break is usually the best, in the long run.

3. In a relationship two people tend to 'meld' into one. A lot of tastes and interests can overlap to the point where it's a little tough to remember where you stop and your partner starts. That's why it's so important to get 'you' back after a breakup. Spend time doing the things you enjoyed doing before you were with your ex.

Chances are there were some activities that you didn't do as often when you were in your relationship because your ex didn't enjoy them. Those are the activities you need to spend time doing now. Not only will that help take your mind off of your ex, but it will give you something fun to do that will help you forget about your ex.

When you're trying to figure out how to get over a relationship, just remember that it will take time. I know that sounds like a cliche, but it's true. Just allow yourself time to grieve, and don't put added pressure on yourself by setting a time limit. The amount it time it takes to move on will take as long as it takes.

Relationships And Cheating Does It Happen To Everybody

It's a sad reality, people cheat on their spouses. You can't hardly read a paper or watch t.v. these days without hearing about some politician or sports figure making a public apology for an affair. But can you avoid this type of relationship? Is it possible to have a relationship with no cheating, or do relationships and cheating go hand it hand?

The good news is that not everyone cheats. As a matter of fact, there are lots of people who will stay faithful to their partner for their whole life. The important thing to remember is that cheating is a choice, it's not some biological need.

Our society tends to have a double standard between men and women when it comes to sexuality, even in this modern day and age it's still there. While society tends to turn a blind eye to the indiscretions of a man and in some ways even condones that type of behavior, women are still made to feel as though they are a slut if they have multiple partners while men are referred to as studs. See, double standard is alive and well.

So if a man, or woman, tries to say they cheated because they couldn't help it, you know that is not true and there is just something wrong with that particular person. Once you realize that, you can end the relationship and move on to someone who has more respect for them self and for you and your relationship.

In many cases the warning signs will be there very early in the relationship and once they've been spotted you can save yourself an awful lot of pain by ending things right then and there. For example, if you are starting to date someone who you know cheated in their last relationship, what makes you think they won't do the same thing to you?

Many people will be very delusional at this point and convince themselves that their lover cheated in their past relationship because something was wrong in the relationship and since you are so wonderful and your relationship is so wonderful they don't need to cheat on you.

That line of thinking couldn't be more wrong. There's actually quite a bit of evidence to suggest that men are actually more prone to cheat on a wonderful loving women more quickly. Why? Simple, because on some level he thinks that she's so in love with him that he can do whatever he wants to and she will put up with it. And, unfortunately, that's often true.

People also tend to cheat because they aren't getting the feeling of love that they need. On of the best ways to greatly diminish the possibility that your lover will ever cheat on you is to pick someone who has a lot of self confidence. I don't mean a stupid, fake macho swagger which is really just a sign that that person is very insecure, but I mean someone who knows who they are and likes who they are. That type of person would be far less likely to need to have a harem of women telling him how great he is. He'd be much more likely to be content with just his wife telling him how great he is.

Just keep these tips in mind and remember that relationships and cheating do not have to go hand in hand. The best deterrent to cheating is finding the right partner.

3 Tips and More on How To Know Mr. Right

We all know that no one is perfect.  So when you are one your search for Mr. Right, you can't expect someone who is perfect, but you can expect someone who is perfect...for you.  Do yourself a favor before you start your search, take some time on you.  Make sure you are a secure confidant woman who knows who she is and what she wants (though I don't mean an inflexible ice queen).  Once you're at that place you will find that you will attract an awful lot of great guys since 'like attracts like'.  Once you've met someone, here are some tips to follow to determine how to know Mr Right.

1. What types of qualities are important to you?  Is honesty, humor, sensitivity, etc. what you'd want in a mate?  First you need to know what traits you would want in a man. That may sound obvious, but most people don't take the time to think about that.  Don't expect your Mr. Right to have all of these traits, but as long as he has most of them to some degree that is a good sign that you've found someone you could be happy with for the long term.

2. One trait that probably wasn't on your Mr. Right wish list was manipulative.  If your new guy tries to control you, and you have to  be careful since it can sometimes be very subtle, then my guess would be you wouldn't be happy with someone like that for the rest of your life.

3. Most women think of Mr. Right as someone they would want to marry and start a family with.  You don't want to rush it, but at some point early in the relationship there is nothing wrong with asking  him what he wants in his future.  When you ask that question don't make it about you or your relationship, but make it more generic.  For example, you could  casually ask if he thinks he'll have kids some day.  That's not an unreasonable question to ask, though you should probably wait until you've dated a few times first. 

A Mr. Right type of guy would probably answer that question with something like: " Sure, some day I'd love to get married and have kids", or something to that effect. 

If a guy gets overly sensitive or defensive to that simple question than more than likely he really isn't looking for that type of relationship with you and you might want to consider looking elsewhere.

Just remember that finding Mr. Right doesn't have to happen on some time frame, it will probably happen when you least expect it. But do yourself a favor, make sure you keep your eyes open and that you see what is really there and not just what you want to be there.  To often women will settle for Mr. Wrong because they pretended he was Mr. Right.  Follow this advice and you will know how to know Mr Right when you meet him!